The High Cost of Staying Stuck

You know what sexual sin (either in thought or action) does to our relationship with God -- the guilt, the shame, the troubled conscience, the lack of peace with God.

Choosing the ‘feel good now’ path -- the way that feels easiest right now without any thought of future consequences destroys your ability to do the hard, right things that God created you for!

This procrastination mindset, ‘pushing off getting into recovery until later’ mindset increases the probability of being found out rather than proactively finding help first. There is always more grace given when we voluntarily ask for help...

The extent of our sexual struggles almost always gets worse until we are discovered. Our enemy is a liar when he suggests that giving in to sin provides relief from temptation. The inner torment only gets worse.

Additionally, the struggler almost always finds himself doing things he never thought he would. Why? Because, like the substance abuser, what used to give pleasure no longer has the same numbing effect. The type of activity and content that we view tends to become more explicit and more degrading with the passing of time.

Not being able to stop acting out sexually makes you feel like a wimp and robs you of your self-confidence in other areas of life, too. More and more you withdraw and become a loner. You feel like a hypocrite. You can't look people in the eye.

​Your spouse and family will suffer incredibly much. Studies show that your family feels almost as much pain and betrayal-trauma consequences of you watching pornography as compared to you being in an adulterous relationship! Both hurt the family members you love a LOT!